Talk As Pinball Minefield

talk as pinball minefield:

if conversation were as a game, like pinball, the focus of our thoughts the ball, and our words the paddle, some of the board would be minefield, for talking is not without risk. of course, it has its rewards. it satisfies personal curiosities, communicates truths, validates beliefs, makes clear what is happening and what could happen, and may bring about happiness and wellbeing.

where it goes wrong it induces hate, anger, sorrow or fear, perhaps in that very order. it is all very well to say, "oh everyone's the same", but truthfully, everyone's mind is mapped at least a little differently. everyone has a unique value system. cynically, if everyone wants different things, or even perhaps the same thing but to a different degree, what are they doing together? on the other end of the scale, into the negative, there are things people do not want, or even fear or hate. the difficulty lies in that, in a real sense, words do not mean exactly the same thing to other people, they are not connected to the same ideas, concepts and experiences as in your own mind. when i say word X, i am thinking of ideas B and M, for instance, but it may trigger someone else to think of ideas Y and F. F might be something unpleasant.

and because we are driven by want, people may assume that what we casually mention, we actually want, even if this is not true or the purpose of what we say. it is not exactly about being direct or indirect, there are different manners of speaking, some speak in an emotionally loaded way, everything closely connected to their own worldview, what they want, fear or hate or what makes them angry or sad.

to reveal acute differences in value systems would usually be thought of as a loss but then again perhaps talk is only a form of art, nice when it goes well, but not a matter of life and death. even if only some common ground is found, it is in some sense a success.

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Agenda and Gain

agenda and gain:

what is the question? what is your stance on this issue?
to advance yourself both in a social sense and materially?

to sense the opportunity and when it will occur and to be ready

trade and mutual benefit....
another dimension opens and closes.
what does the other person mean to you?

the target is clear, into the zone, make the match....
killed off by the moment of success, what happens afterwards?

it is all a game we play!

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To the End Game

to the end game:

discussion is long over, instruction barely remembered....
what is impossible? what seems likely?

it developed into this....
pushed forward by change, what response do i have? what seemed only possible at first is now the case.

make or break....
stay on the ball, the creative moment has passed.

let it play out

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Play in Action

play in action:

you are here at last, your friends, things going on....
i have been here before, i know it well.

is it me?
you move well, you move fast.
it's true.
say something, you know well.

a chance encounter
or was it fate?

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Matching Demand

matching demand:

the match between demand and supply happens and there is a price, without this, there is no progress. often there is a distinction between what is stated and what may only be implied. as negotiations develop, this becomes clear.

say what the demand is! be forthright. be prepared.

when demand is great, and supply is little, and negotiations fumble, the realization strikes that the price is more. supply may happen and economic attention will be diverted to this rare resource.

what the demand is may be complex or it may be simple. what is the primary interest?
a beef sandwich? or a chicken sandwich?
type of bread? cheese? toasted?

matching demand may be inexact. requirements differ. timescales matter. individual sectors of the economy may proceed in an independent fashion for years, on their own plans and their own budget.

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Play the Game

play the game:

you are already entered, no doubt, people everywhere, life, work, play, problems....
play by the rules? or break one or two? who knew?

advance....
to get what you want, you have to give them what they want. it is as simple as that....
match, trade off, indeed, mutual satisfaction.

from the outset, it is clear, you must please mummy and daddy....
who do you prefer? pleasing people, or pleasing yourself?

limits....
there is only so much time to prepare for the next match. get your priorities straight first of all.

a true winner knows when to quit!

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