The Precepts of Triangularity

the precepts of triangularity:

YOU THE OBSERVER AND IT

two meet, the watcher sees and hears it. now everyone has their own opinion of what happened and their own thoughts about it. the truth of 3 points, much like a triangle of perspective.

NOT AIM FOR THE OBSERVER

the truth between yourselves, whether it meant it or not, between two people you need its opinion on what happened.

CLEARCHARGE

Talk As Pinball Minefield

talk as pinball minefield:

if conversation were as a game, like pinball, the focus of our thoughts the ball, and our words the paddle, some of the board would be minefield, for talking is not without risk. of course, it has its rewards. it satisfies personal curiosities, communicates truths, validates beliefs, makes clear what is happening and what could happen, and may bring about happiness and wellbeing.

where it goes wrong it induces hate, anger, sorrow or fear, perhaps in that very order. it is all very well to say, "oh everyone's the same", but truthfully, everyone's mind is mapped at least a little differently. everyone has a unique value system. cynically, if everyone wants different things, or even perhaps the same thing but to a different degree, what are they doing together? on the other end of the scale, into the negative, there are things people do not want, or even fear or hate. the difficulty lies in that, in a real sense, words do not mean exactly the same thing to other people, they are not connected to the same ideas, concepts and experiences as in your own mind. when i say word X, i am thinking of ideas B and M, for instance, but it may trigger someone else to think of ideas Y and F. F might be something unpleasant.

and because we are driven by want, people may assume that what we casually mention, we actually want, even if this is not true or the purpose of what we say. it is not exactly about being direct or indirect, there are different manners of speaking, some speak in an emotionally loaded way, everything closely connected to their own worldview, what they want, fear or hate or what makes them angry or sad.

to reveal acute differences in value systems would usually be thought of as a loss but then again perhaps talk is only a form of art, nice when it goes well, but not a matter of life and death. even if only some common ground is found, it is in some sense a success.

CLEARCHARGE

The Best Shuffler

the best shuffler:

he knew it was unreasonable to expect to win, after all, the odds were not in his favour. but he enjoyed playing was the thing, the whole ritual of the game, the shuffling of the six decks of cards at the beginning, the cut, and the deal, and the clearing away after each hand.

it was sometime in the afternoon. the room wasn't busy yet. come night time it would be heaving with bodies. there were the regulars there, those he saw every time he came it seemed, most of them elderly and quite rich he guessed.

he was alone at her table watching her shuffle expertly. "you're the best shuffler in here," he said. and it was true. he believed it. but she only smiled then but later, after he had won heavily, finally replied, "i really am the best shuffler!"

there was something about her. perhaps she reminded him of someone else he had once known, a quality reflected here in her.

time makes people in the past seem too distant. only sometimes when people seem familiar or act in the same way are we reminded of them.

CLEARCHARGE

Sociology: People and Their Function in Society

sociology: people and their function in society

there is a turn of phrase....
what is my role in society?
how did i get where i am?

how do i measure my success? by my own yard stick? what about my effect on others? indeed, how do other people view me?

the leaders show the way, whether they be investment bankers, masters of the universe, politicians, the representatives of the corners of society....

how easy was it? people are naturally interested in other people. application to detail, drive, motivation are all part of the recipe of success. was it luck?

to say we met, we joined, we formed a congress of minds is to have achieved something.

CLEARCHARGE

Worlds Apart

worlds apart:

other dimensions, zones, neighbourhoods, areas....
people live their own lives: what do they have in common? is it the news, the car they drive, a brand they buy?

what direction do their lives take? correct or not, do they converge, do they meet, do they talk?

people meet....
what are you looking at? what do you notice about me?
other people are looking at us. the field around us is charged.
we become impulsive, we move on.

worlds apart, connections made

CLEARCHARGE